Do what makes sense.

This just about got buried in another post–“Do what makes sense”. I’m not even sure where it came from, but this has been a “guiding principle” in all my decisions and all my forward life motion in the past several years.

It simplifies decisions that would otherwise be complicated and miserable. It eliminates second-guessing and largely eliminates regret after the fact. All I need to do is ask myself, did what I do at the time “make sense”.

Granted, sometimes what I do does not prima facee “make sense”. Or, I think it does at the time, and later, upon reflection, I decide I would have done things differently. And as my friend and relative Catherine, at the Blissful Mind, don’t overthink it! I do that a lot, I’m sorry to say. Going back and rethinking something, is pretty much the same thing.

As we all say, “Don’t overthink it.” It means the same thing as “Do what makes sense.” Do something (anything) now!

As I consider my alternatives for this blog (i.e. turning it into a full-blown advice column/web page vs. packing it in completely), I am reminded that there are no wrong answers. I’ve learned, particularly in the last little while, you and always change your mind. (I think, like a lot of the advice that I dispense–or redispense–these days, this came from my mother). Again, for emphasis, “You can always change your mind”. Or, put another way, there is nothing cast in stone.

I keep on telling myself that. Most of the time it sticks. Sometimes, no. But it’s true, you can always change your mind!

Hope this all makes sense. Thanks for reading. Please feel free to comment below.

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The most important thing is consitency….

Ok. Maybe the second most important thing!

I’ve been learning this—the hard way—for the last few months. Consistency is important, and so is positivism. I live in a happy home, and I want to keep it that way!

So, here we go again. I did most of this when I was in my teen years. Think and Grow Rich (Napoleon Hill); The Power of Positive Thinking (Norman Vincent Peale); all positive contributions to the world of positivism. Both books undoubtedly were a contribution to me in my formative years. Since then, Daniel Goleman–the author of Emotional Intelligence–and Mel Robbins–noted speaker and multiple best-selling author–have made further inroads (or at least made multiple pitches) for positive thinking. The current (for a long time) meditation and mindfulness revival also has an undercurrent of positivism that can’t be denied, and certainly has been an influence to myself and everyone in my life.

Christianity and Buddhism both have been influenced by the more current (and at least as spiritual) waves of positive thinking and positivism. In retrospect, growing up in the Catholic Church, everything I learned about Christ was hardly positive. When I He wasn’t personally suffering (which he always was), he was a hard task master. “Thou shalt not do this…” and “Thou shalt not do that…”. Very old school, and Old Testament!

Yesterday, I ordered (online of course) a back issue of a print magazine, Real Simple, that I’ve picked up in the line at the grocery store a couple of times. I think that my wife, Jan, and I may have even subscribed to a couple of times. The subject of this back issue is “positivity”. The articles delve into the concept of positivity, and how it applies to human psychology. I’ve read some of the articles online, and am looking forward to getting the print edition to read in more detail.

Part of my deep dive into positivism is reading this magazine (cover to cover?) to see what the latest-greatest is on the subject, as well as to perhaps start authoring my own book on the subject. Spoiler alert: It’s not going to be a before and after! The least few years of my life have certainly not been a prime example of living a positivistic life. And, as Jan will attest, I’m not likely to give up my curmudgeonly existence to become a Mel Robbins follower!

Before I sign off on this article, I’d like to invite of any of my readers with a life experience of the power of positivity, or the opposite to share what this has meant to you in your life.

The Comments box is available below. Feel free to copy and paste!

Thanks for reading.

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